As always, my kids were begging me to read them a book before sleeping, however I was still doing things in the kitchen, tidying up mess, then grabbing shower for bathing though I should have read them book at that time. Time flew very fast, but in the tight time nearly bed, the time for kids, they were still begging me again to stay reading, pray then they could have slept peacefully. I was a bit frantic because the more they were waiting for me, the later they were sleeping. The result, they would have been late to school, and many more anxious thoughts.
Thank God, I had husband who understood, even in the restless, husband can replace a moment the mom’s job with kids. This was making my kids felt closer to their Dad and my husband too. He didn’t know how to read book well to kids, but he knew how to entertain our kids regardless his exhaustion of work, even without reading books he tried his own way to cheer up our kids. He didn’t know how to explain the story or brainstorming book with them, but his company was really a feeling of expectancy for them, especially when he got back home after work. He always brings something such bread, pencil, stationary even small things seem unimportant, but his presents will be awaited by my kids. He calls them by their name soon after he gets to the doorstep and saying “Hello guys! I’m coming…I have something for you!”I really like the way he loves his family. I learned from him too how to love my family though I didn’t know before how to be a good mom, I didn’t have real reflection of family completely in my background and my mind but I’ve finally known that what God had planned was right. Husband and wife are meant to be together forever till the end of time.
I know, he is not perfect in everything I hoped before, but he is everything in my life. He is not to be the right man I expect when I need him to be, but he is his with all characters he has. Sometimes cheering up turns to be anger suddenly, because there’s something wrong according to his mind. Sometimes we have different perspective and quarrel each other. I know it’s a process to understand and to be understood. I tried to look up on the Bible verse about husband and wife, such as the story about Abigail, Proverb 31 and some other verses a lot more about wife. Eventually, I know that God gave husband as a head to manage a family, and sent wife as a helping hand for husband and children in their life. Wife is supposed to obey her husband (means from the right conducts of husband according to Bible, as long as it is not in defiance of God’s commands). Once I knew that God had asked us to have good relationship with Him, and the second is our family then we serve others, or serve our family and others at the same time as long as our husband is allowing us to do both. Daily Prayer is very important as our protection to break down evil and everything hinders in marriage life.
According to God, there is no separation between husband and wife. Recited in Matt 19: 4:
“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?[c] 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate”
I perceive that God had chosen husband and wife even before we lived. Indeed, it is quite long journey to learn how to be a good wife and husband according to God’s commands. Nevertheless, we can’t believe that as the time goes by, the present we get from Him is perseverance, a heart that is trying to find God’s throne in every kind of circumstances whether good and bad, a heart which totally accepts every disappointment burdens us within marriage life. Thus, as we already know, husband, and children it selves are precious gift from above that we really need time and effort to preserve with unconditional love.
These words again remind me of our holy wedding vows in church that will be last forever in our marriage life:
Priest: (Name), do you take (name) to be your wife? Do you promise to be true to her in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love her and honor her all the days of your life?
Groom: I do.
Priest: (Name), do you take (name) to be your husband? Do you promise to be true to him in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, to love him and honor him all the days of your life?
Bride: I do.
“I do love you!”
KL, 24th September 2013